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kuntryGurl - October 12th, 2010 8:04 PM

I was just talking to my daughter the other day and she told me that my neice who is 3wks younger than my 4yr old daughter does not know her alphabet, colors, numbers, etc.

My daughter has known her alphabet since she was probably 2. She learned her colors then too. She can read just about anything and is working on simple addition and subtraction. She doesn't go to preschool or anything and is an only child (for the next 3wks or so anyway).

Is it me or does it seem just horrible that my sister in law isn't working with my neice at all. I won't go into the whole story with my SIL. It's long and horribly wrong. My neice is the youngest of 5 children. It's saddens me to see her have to live that way.

ladymom - October 16th, 2010 11:09 PM

the learning ability of every child individual is not of the same range and level with how they can comprehend things right away. some may learn fast and develop slowly as they grow and some may learn slow but progresses as they aged. there are also so many factors that may hinder or help a child learn the abc's and the 123's like the environment, the people around and the things they do on a daily basis.

BLESSY - October 26th, 2010 12:19 AM

well it depends with the child, some are just slow learner and some are very good in visual or with the capacity of their memory to learn colors and numbers.

GrrrButLuvMaBB - October 27th, 2010 3:23 PM

I've heard that oldest children learn to talk and develop faster with cognitive thinking than middle and/or youngest children in a family... its certainly true... So, I guess, in answer to your question, your sis in law must have her hands full to have that many kids (I'm the oldest of 6 children and felt like my mom was overwhelmed a lot). You could buy your neice a LeapFrog toy that would help her Or maybe offer to arrange a play date a few times a month and then work with her with those dollar-bin preschool workbooks.

happygirl - October 27th, 2010 3:25 PM

A lot of kids go into Kindergarten not knowing all their letters, and certainly not reading any words. I wouldn't worry about her not being "worked with", especially being one of 5 kids. Hard to find the time to sit down and work with each one individually, especially on things she might just not be interested in yet.

HappyMama - October 27th, 2010 3:26 PM

I know we all tend to compare our kids, but they do usually tend to catch up once they get to school. Also, with your niece being the youngest of FIVE, well, it would be hard to get the one-on-one attention your daughter is getting. I wouldn't dwell to much on this and, unless you notice neglect or abuse, that you let it go.

imahippie - October 27th, 2010 3:31 PM

I wouldn't assume your sis isn't working with her. Some kids, even very bright ones, have no interest in letters and numbers at this age. Or, your niece may have a learning disability if she is struggling to learn these things, and that is not anyone's fault.

IsmaelsMum - October 27th, 2010 3:33 PM

My son has 2 friends (that I know of) that do not know their letters or numbers. They both go to very good full-time preschools and have very attentive Moms. They frankly don't care to learn these things. They are very bright kids too. So unless there is something else going on - I think it's not really nice to judge another kid compared to yours and assume neglect. Every kid develops differently and at different rates.

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